It's easy to blame the dog. I mean, he's the one that jumped onto the counter and stole your new pair of sunglasses. He's the one that ran around in circles while you chased him trying to get those sunglasses back. It's him, not you. Right? See how easy that was? Just blame it on the dog!
Sometimes the easiest thing isn't the correct thing. While it is easy to blame it on the dog, that doesn't mean that doing so is correct. For it to be the dog that did the "wrong" thing, it would mean that the dog is capable of making decisions based on "right and wrong." Currently what we know is that dogs are not capable of making decisions based on right and wrong. The decisions that dogs make are based on two things; Safe/Beneficial, and Unsafe/Not beneficial.
With all that being said, it can't be the dog's fault. Dogs will do what dogs do. If the behavior that the dog does leads to something the dog likes, he will do that behavior again. If a guest walks in and the dog joyfully jumps all over the guest, the next time a guest comes in the dog will try to do the same thing because of the enjoyment that came from it in the past.
Some examples of things dogs get blamed for and why it's the human's fault:
Dog gets into things when left home alone - Human's fault. Should have properly secured dog or objects
Dog chews human's things - Human's fault. Dog should be supervised or properly secured (crate, playpen)
Dog eliminates in the kitchen - Human's fault. Dog should be taught where to go, dog should be supervised, etc.
Dog jumps on human as it enters - Human's fault. Dog needs to be taught how to greet a human
Dog barks outside incessantly - Human's fault. Dog shouldn't be outside unsupervised
Can you see the trend? These are just some common examples of when the dog is blamed for its "wrongdoing." Ultimately though as I have shown above, it really stems down to human error. This human error can happen due to lack of knowledge, laziness, lack of time, and other reasons. Whatever the reason though, it's important to acknowledge it as your fault, and not your dog's.
As soon as the human starts taking responsibility for the incorrect things that happen progress can start to be made. I think they say that the first step is admitting you have a problem. With this, the first step is admitting that it isn't the dog's fault. Remember that dogs do what makes sense to them and what benefits them.
To successfully achieve what you're looking for out of your dog, you need to ensure that he gets absolutely zero enjoyment out of doing the "wrong" things. Additionally, it is a must that you give lots of reinforcement when the "correct" things happen. Remember to stay patient, give your dog physical and mental stimulation, clearly communicate, manage/prevent the unwanted things from happening, and to reinforce the wanted behaviors. By doing these you are setting your dog and yourself up for a long happy life together.